Manifest Monday: 7 Ways We Screw Up our Manifesting Mojo

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First, a quick little worthwhile Manifest Master survey:

  • Do others say you’re hyper-sensitive? Quick-to-anger or have a short fuse?
  • Do you feel you’ve got it in you to make your dreams come true but somehow you just keep falling a bit short and don’t know exactly why?
  • Are you often referred to as a dreamer? Or that your
    head is in the clouds?”
  • Do you feel misunderstood or unaccepted because you see or experience things differently than others?

If you answered “yes” to one (1) or all of the above questions, GREAT! You’ve got what it takes to master the power of personal and professional manifestation despite what you or others believe. In fact, you possess the very magic to bring all you desire to life. I know, I know, you’re thinking, What are you talking about, Laurie? Have you gone mad?

Hang in there with me. Trust me for a moment and you’ll see why. Please keep reading.  :-)

Many believe life just simply happens. Or, it happens TO them (rather than FOR them or in-service of them)…

I was one of those people years ago. In fact, I often said if I didn’t have bad luck, I’d have no luck at all.

That’s not to say I wasn’t a goal-setter or go-getter but I lacked vision, the power of manifesting my dreams, as well as the ability to tap into the power of my positive feeling. Yes, feeling (there’s so much more than just positive-thinking). Do YOU feel me?

But, I sure was an expert on how to access my negative feelings. In fact, I was a master at it. I’d complain for days till my friends and family told me they no longer wanted to listen to me. I fell into the same thinking as my former co-workers and I’d even yell at the television when something radically upset me. 

Have any of these experiences  ever happened to you?

Misunderstood, loneliness and unaccepted were feelings I often felt. Knowing I wanted something greater in life but not knowing how to make that happen felt freakishly frustrating and drastically debilitating. Sadly, I often curbed my enthusiasm and allowed my passion to peter-out just for the sake of toning down my energy so others could “be” with me and not feel overwhelmed.

Any of this sound or feel familiar?


The good news is: It’s not too late. If you’ve got EXTREME passion, you’re already on the right track. Many may not understand your powerful passion but that does NOT mean you are wrong. It does not mean you cannot manifest. It does not mean your Extreme Dreams won’t come true.  In fact, that powerful passion you possess is the EXACT ingredient required to be a “Master Manifester.” 

We’ve just got to get you making that passion more PURPOSEFUL. Simple. As. That.

If you think about the most powerful master manifesters on our incredible planet, many of them have often been called, “loners,” “aliens,” “weird,” “oddball,” “scary,” and most of them have been terribly underestimated. Again, GREAT news, right?!?

Today’s post is designed to SHOW you how to actually streamline, anchor in, and center your passion so you can catapult your dreams to the next level. Gone are the days of your passion just indiscriminantly being thrown all over the place—we’ve got to get it dialed-in, channeled and directed.  Usually, us hyper-sensitive folks are simply challenged with not knowing how to get our passion “right.” But, once we’ve figured out how, the rest is literally a piece-of- cake.

In the past (and sometimes still!), I let my emotions get the best of me instead of using my emotions to their best. Impulsive, intense and even irrational were very descriptive words others would say about me. At first I didn’t get why others said such things, but boy-oh-boy do I get it now! While I found such expressions painful and hurtful, I can look back and have some giggles over my past piss-and-vinegar personality.

While I knew I had a lot of passion and it was (and still is) fiery,  I often unloaded that fire onto others because I hadn’t mastered my blaze. Sadly, a lot of my dreams got burned away, many others were hurt or offended, and I wasted a lot of time because I didn’t understand how to successfully utilize the power of my energetic enthusiasm and excited emotions.

I don’t want this for you. Let’s save you loads of time and get you started on mastering what you wish to manifest in a much easier and far-more fun way. Right. Freaking. Now. Deal?


Here’s a quick list of just a few of the things I’ve gained over a 13-year period (I started actively working on magically manifesting in 2000)  since I began “channeled manifesting” which you, too, can bring about if you desire (and keep in mind, I answered “yes” to ALL of the above-listed questions in the survey at the beginning of this post:

  • World travel (from Nepal, to Turkey, to Bali, Thailand, Italy, England, France, Belgium, Morocco, Egypt, Jordan, Kurdistan, Lebanon and so much more)
  • Living abroad (have lived in Spain, Portugal, The Middle East, Africa and now The Netherlands)
  • Working for myself in several different countries doing what I love (coaching, training and Reiki)
  • Working only about the equivalent of six (6) months out of the year but earning the equivalent of a 12-month income
  • Working shorter days (as opposed to well over 40 hours per week in my old government career plus one helluva long commute to boot)
  • Working with ONLY my only my ideal clients
  • Having tons more fun with a lot less anguish, sadness and pain and a helluva lot more peace of mind and calm


And, now, let’s get to YOU.


Be still, the answer will come. -Abraham-Hicks


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  1. Anger is a creative channeling force. Remember the survey at the beginning of this post? If you answered that you are often told you have a short-fuse, don’t despair. Anger is a gauge; it’s a guide to what we are feeling at our deepest core level. Usually anger ignites in us as our intuition is being tapped into on some major level. The key is to, however, know how to channel that anger rather than let it just run amuck and spill onto everyone around you. Channel that anger instead into your dreams, your passions, your hobbies and desires. Anger possesses inside it a lot of fuel, power and energy. It’s important to use this fuel, power and energy at its most optimal level. When you can master this, your passion becomes centered and very directed, which means your dreams can and will finally take flight. Most master manifesters are not scared or ashamed of their anger. Most use it wisely and to their advantage without taking advantage of others. A good check-in question regarding anger is: How can I use this anger for my and the highest good of all?
  2. Doubt is cool. Doubting isn’t bad despite what many say. It gives you a chance to pause, sit with stillness and gain new ground regarding what feels most important to you. Having quick moments of doubt can provide the clarity you’re seeking. The key is not to get too sucked into the doubt and allow it to take over. Grant yourself permission to have moments of doubt but also become aware of when you’ve let doubt win. A good check-in question regarding doubt is: How long have I sat with this doubt without taking any action?
  3. Expect miracles AND expect to work. When I first started learning the Universal Laws, I became obsessed with the idea of everything being super-duper easy and that I no longer really had to work. I think this is a misconception that many of us have especially when first learning the Law of Attraction. Many of us create Vision Boards and then just expect the car, man or woman, and job of our dreams to simply magically appear. Vision boards alone don’t bring the bacon. I believe those of us teaching the Law of Attraction aren’t being clear if we give others this impression. Yes, expect miracles to come as they surely do and also expect from yourself that you will always give your best for the highest good at all times whenever possible and that you, too, will roll up your sleeves and do the work especially when it comes to doing what you love, loving what you do and getting paid for it. Here’s what I’ve learned: When channeling all of my efforts, love, pride, enthusiasm, and energy into my dreams and passions—it NEVER feels like work. A good check-in question on expecting to work: What are my personal expectations of myself when it comes to manifesting my dreams?
  4. Rest is key. While it is important to take intentioned action toward all things positive that have to do with manifesting our dreams, it is soooo important to REST. Resting is the place where our daydreams can happen. And daydreams are the spark to the Extreme Dreams! Resting provides the opportunity for us to imagine, create, innovate while seeing and feeling positive images in our minds FIRST before we take that directed, channeled action with purpose toward our passions. Rest is not bad. Please believe me when I tell you: Rest is NOT bad. We have a lot of noise in our brains which happens when we don’t give our minds the time to just chill out and reset itself. Our mind is one of our greatest assets to mastering manifestation so it is supa-dupa important to give it the time to just pause-out. A good check-in question regarding rest is: What makes me not take rest?201009-omag-beck-600x411
  5. Feel what you see and give it time. When learning the power of visualization, most don’t realize we have to invoke the senses—this means invite images of smell, touch, taste, hearing, etc. See and feel yourself tasting your favorite dishes while visualizing, or actually see and feel yourself sleeping in your favorite bed in your favorite room in your new house smelling all the aromas, seeing all the colors, etc.—if that is what you’re manifesting. Feel the sheets, touch the knick-knacks in your visualized room—you get the idea. Most give up on visualizing too easy. I believe this is because they are not finding the fun in it and are filtering their imaginations. Make your visualizations as ACTIVE as you can—make them FEEL as real as you can. Do them often and do them in SHORT intervals. One minute of visualizing each day can do wonders. And, don’t forget to BELIEVE in your visualization. A good check-in question regarding visualization: What do I love about doing my visualization work?
  6. Don’t avoid negative feelings either. When I first started to learn the power of manifesting I thought I couldn’t have one bad or negative thought. This is totally not practical or realistic. I’d automatically tell myself: You have to think positively now. You must change your thoughts immediately, Laurie. It’s bad to think negative thoughts. Has this happened to you also? The Law of Attraction does not say we cannot have bad thoughts or that we won’t think negatively at times. In fact, I highly encourage you to read or re-read, Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks and review the Emotional Guidance Scale (in my book it is on pages 113-114). You will see in the book and on the scale that you are actually granted permission to feel depressed, for example, yet are encouraged to get “underneath” that depression by trying to see if you can increase your vibration up a notch to insecurity and then up another notch to jealousy, etc. Bad thoughts don’t mean you’re bad; they only mean it is time to rest, reflect, recharge and rebuild. A good check-in question regarding avoidance is: What feelings do I try to escape; what happens when I avoid these feelings?

The thing that matters most is that you consciously reach for a feeling that is improved. The word for the feeling is not important. -Abraham-Hicks



7. Appreciate the hate. Bold weird statement, I know. The message here is to even appreciate that which doesn’t fit with us or doesn’t resonate. There’s a message and lesson tucked inside this uncomfortable situation. Ideally, if you can appreciate what you don’t jibe with, you’re totally mastering your emotions and channeling that hatred into a positive place rather than just allowing your “fired-up” fire to fly free. When you’re the person holding the match rather than allowing the fire to simply ignite you, you’ll see you’re truly manifesting all you desire because you can master even the toughest of times. And, this is the key to not screwing up your manifesting mojo.


Thank you for being an Extreme Dreamer and sharing your energy with us. Thanks for giving yourself the time to read this post. I do hope these 7 Tips today gave you some hope, happiness, and validation.

I would love to hear from you regarding what resonated with you; your comments are always welcome. I send you lots of blessings, abundance and light— some extra fuel to help you have lift-off for your Extreme Dreams! Every little bit helps 😉


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Have a powerful and exciting day :-) Now, let’s get manifesting you master you!


Hugs from Holland,



Founder of Extreme Dream Training, Certified Life Coach, Reiki Master, Fish! Philosophy Facilitator, EFQM Assessor

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About Laurie Santos

Owner and Founder of Extreme Dream Training. Certified Life Coach, Master Reiki Healer, Certified Law of Attraction Expert, Certified EFQM Assessor. Surfer, expat, lover of animals, poetry and silence.

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